In a country with a growing foreclosure rate, new default notices being sent every day, and an unemployment rate over 9 percent, the chances of foreclosure affecting you or someone you know is on the rise.

RealtyTrac.com reports that in August 2010, foreclosure filings rose by 4 percent, with 338,836 new filings, affecting one in every 381 households.

If you find yourself struggling to make your payments, here are some ways to avoid foreclosure.

First, be realistic about your situation. Answer phone calls from your lender and open your mail. This is the time to face your problem head on. Could a foreclosure be on the horizon? Be aware of warning signs.

Warning signs can include significant life changes, such as the death of a spouse, loss of job, illness, divorce, and steep increases in your mortgage payment.

If you are having trouble making monthly payments on other bills, now is the time to pay attention. Your mortgage could be the next bill that becomes too much. In order to curb missed payments, prioritize your spending.

Establish a budget and cut out any unnecessary spending (e.g. movies, cable, eating out, shopping) until you are in a more stable financial state. Apart from healthcare, there is nothing more important than your home. If you have assets to sell off, then do so! The cash may be better spend in helping you save your home.

Next, call your lender to explain your situation and to see what options are available. In these tough economic times, many lenders have programs that may help you stay in your home. Foreclosures do more than run ruin on your credit score, they also affect a lender's bottom line. If working out an agreement with you can help them save that bottom line, the changes of them helping you are high.

When you speak with your lender, have proof of your monthly income, as well as your budget on hand. You will also need to have an explanation of why you are unable to make your payments. Has someone lost their job? Has there been a medical emergency? It is best to be honest and upfront with your lender regarding your situation.

Some options you may discuss with your lender include refinancing, reinstatement (where your lender allows you to pay the money you are behind in one lump sum and by a certain date), forbearance (a temporary reduction or cessation of your mortgage payment), a new repayment plan, and loan modification (a permanent change to some of the terms of your existing mortgage).

Beware of scammers during this process. Help and counsel from your lender should be free of charge. If you come across someone requesting a fee in order to facilitate help, chances are it is a scam.

The Making Home Affordable Program is also available for those who are struggling to make their payments. This program includes opportunities to modify or refinance your mortgage to make your monthly payments more affordable. It also includes the Home Affordable Foreclosure Alternatives Program for homeowners who are interested in a short sale or deed-in-lieu of foreclosure.

The sooner you contact your lender, the better. Don't wait until you are days away from being foreclosed. The process of working out an arrangement with your lender could take multiple phone calls and weeks of time.

Published: September 21, 2010

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Carla Hill, M.A., works on the Realty Times staff as Managing Editor for our online publication. She also is Producer for the real estate news channel, seen daily on RealtyTimes.com and on video newsletters nationwide.