Do You Really Believe Fairy Tales Never Come True?

Written by Posted On Thursday, 04 June 2020 05:00

And they lived happily ever after…

Remember when you were just a kid and the fairy tales were such delight!  True love lasts forever, the good guys always win, and the sun will come out tomorrow, and you believed it. Then one day, someone told you, or you learned through an experience, that things don’t always work out like they do in fairy tales—and that  was the start of your “belief system” that changed how you looked at just about everything. 

What if the way you look at things isn’t really accurate?  Clearly, you’ve survived all this time by not being naïve, being totally realistic and downright sensible…right?

But what if…

It has been proven on many levels that you are your attention, and you can’t help but refer to your library of thoughts, emotions, and experiences to reinforce that “reality”.

What if you could change how you “see” through your eyes?

Dr. Wayne Dyer, author and thought-leader in self-development, shared that “A belief system is nothing more than a thought you’ve thought over and over again”, and when you think about it, it is so true.

So, let’s do a bit of review here:

How often have you thought:

• I don’t have enough time
• I can’t lose this weight
• I can’t find the right partner
• There are no good [fill in the blank]
• I can’t do math
• I’m bad at directions….

Really?  What if that might have been true once, but not forever?

If you are like most people, you are firmly rooted into thoughts of solid belief based on the now, what we “see” as we see it, and the evidence is clear, and it is everywhere. 

You can thank your amazing brain for that, specifically your Reticular Activating System.  This bundle of nerves at your brainstem has the job of filtering out the billions of bits of information you don’t need so the things you focus on get through.  Have you ever noticed that when you learn about a new product you suddenly hear everyone talk about it? See ads and billboards you never “noticed” before?  

This system becomes your “evidence” producer, and the more you focus on that “thing” the more you see it in your daily life.  When you think limiting thoughts (I can’t, I don’t, I won’t…), your Reticular Activating System finds the “evidence” to support those beliefs.

Want to change it, and change your life?  The next time you have a “limited” thought, insert a buffer thought to allow a new flow of observation and thinking. Say, “That thought doesn’t serve me anymore.” This will allow you to see things differently.  We all know that a photo taken from different angles reveals different visual experience even though it is of the same subject. Guess what? Your brain works the same way. You might observe something new, and find yourself piling more evidence on the reality of that thought/observation. 

Skeptical? Try it out on something that doesn’t mean much to you, like “I’m always lucky finding a parking place” instead of saying ”I never find a great parking place”…just for fun!

Our beliefs are deeply engrained, and a tune-up may help you “see” how to get what you want, and shift your thinking away from what you don’t want, can’t have, never will, or won’t happen in this limiting kind of thinking. 

What if a fairy tale ending could be real? It all depends on how you look at it. And it is okay if you are skeptical, unsure, or a flatout non-believer.  Just explain to how in a room with lots of people with many conversations going on, you can hear someone say your name way across the room in the middle of all that chatter.  Yup…it does work….and there’s your sign.

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Terri Murphy

Terri Murphy, Communication engagement specialist, author, speaker, consultant, and Master Coach with Workman Success. She is the author of 5 books, TedTalk speaker and co-radio host on Contact: or Email: [email protected]

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